Social Media Meltdown… a quote is a quote, is a quote, is a quote
I liked this quote by one of my favorite bloggers, Jennifer Blanchard. “It’s my belief we’re supposed to trigger people and get triggered by people–that’s how we all learn and grow.”
What inspired me to write this blog, you ask? Jennifer’s quote conspired me to listen to a talk radio show. I was with my husband in the car. We were on our way to a doctor appointment. He was listening to talk radio. What else would he be listening to. Not music, that would be insane.
The radio host was talking about a recent personal attack made on him. Not a physical attack… a verbal assault. I related to his commentary. I thought, hmm. I guess I’ve finally made it to the big leagues. How did I come to determine this? Someone on Facebook attacked me. AGAIN!
But, I’m honored.
So, I looked it up online, why people attack others. It seems rather simple, why this happens.
Because the attacker interprets the other person as a threat. The attacker goes into a self – defense mode. The result is to argue back. They assume that what the other person is saying is unfair. They tend to stop listening and focus on themselves.
But, I loved a tactic designed by Virginia Satir. She calls it, “Computer Mode.”
“In Computer Mode, you talk in platitudes, generalities, and hypotheticals and avoid anything personal. Your words can even be meaningless. Nothing is more distressing than talking to people who don’t respond the way you want.”
In doing this, you signal to your attacker that you’re not going to play the personal attack game. No matter how much they want a response they can feed on. I think people attack others because there is something missing in their own lives. Jealousy, is a big factor too.
To attack with accusations is just an attempt to make them feel superior; lame isn’t it? Because of their own insecurities, they put others down to look good. It rarely works, though, as real people are perceptive enough to see through it.
It doesn’t matter what they think, it matters what YOU think. A confident person will not put others down no matter what. A confident person may use constructive criticism, but they will never put another person down.
A person’s rant exposes just how appalling and frustrated that person is with life. The problem is their problem, not yours. Knowing this can go a long way to being able to disconnect yourself from the remarks. And refuse to become involved with their rants.
That person wants you to feel bad about yourself. Don’t give them that power.
It’s useless to sink to that person’s level. That’s what they want. They want to get a reaction out of you. It’s their anger, not yours. They may want you to accept their disdain and anger as your own.
There are times when people’s comments might seem like a put down. But, remember, it’s just a remark.
Successful people focus on meeting their objectives. People who lack focus hate you. They’re called haters, and if you are successful, you don’t have enough of them. That’s right. It’s suggested that when you are successful, you need more haters.
Why? There’s a direct correlation between your success and the number of haters you have. You should love the hater, because that means you’re on the right track.
I love this quote that I ran across. “Haters are people who think they know the route to success. But they never actually get on the plane to fly themselves there.”
Successful people have their share of ‘mean tweets and posts.’ My latest social media attack went like this.
“I am again ‘hit’ by a (nameless person placed here). Accused of plagiarism. Saying that I ‘used her words’. So, from this minute forward I will stand my ground. I will still use my imagination to the fullest and I will write to my hearts content. Since I write mainly fiction at this time, I will lie. God help me, but I am laughing now. She (the nameless person) thinks that she can hurt me, but me…. I will keep on lying. Fiction is lies. “
My instant thought was… Say what? It was such a rant that it was unclear in meaning. If this wasn’t about me, and about someone else… (doubtful), perhaps there’s some truth to it. Does she lie? It’s quite possible. Besides, I don’t think I’d go around writing about how I lie when writing stories. People might not take it the way she meant. Is a lie Fiction? Or, Is Fiction a lie? Hmm. Food for thought.
This person blocked me on Facebook two years ago. I don’t know what bee got in her bonnet, but perhaps a good dousing of Raid would get rid of her problem. Criticism and hate are the price you pay for taking your business to the big time. So bring it on. I’m on the border of joining the BIG League team of writers. And I’m lovin’ it.
Haters hate because you’re on to something. You are doing big things. In a way, they are one of the greatest forms of feedback you can get. I fall on my knees and beg for feedback. So, hate me all you want. Lots of hater’s attacks = lots of success.
I agree with this quote. “Remember: They can doubt you, they can fight you — but they can never stop you. Feel free to comment about my blog. Share a mean tweet or email me to tell me my writing stinks. That’s all the more proof I’m doing something RIGHT.”
Again I say, “It’s my belief we’re supposed to trigger people and get triggered by people–that’s how we all learn and grow.” These are wise words Jennifer Blanchard. And thank you for sharing them.
Other Quotes are from John Brubaker.
Until next week.
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There are four P’s in becoming a writer
When you are a writer, it’s essential to know your standings among other authors.
This is something that I don’t normally do. And that’s to check my ranking in Author’s Central on Amazon books.
It’s just something that doesn’t occur to me to do often. I’m so busy just coming up with topics to blog about. And then, I thought, an author’s RANKING might be interesting for my audience.
There is so much more to becoming an authentic, verified writer. We just don’t sit down and plunk away on a computer keyboard. It first takes an idea. Sometimes an idea just pops into your head. And other times it comes from an inspiration.
The next step is the idea needs to germinate and grow. I write two weekly blogs. So, I have twice the workload. And I also try to put a monthly book out on CreateSpace and in the Amazon e-book store.
The inspiration to write this blog, came from roaming around in my Author’s central page. I found it rather interesting. This is the way the Amazon Bestsellers Book Ranking works.
You need to have more than four books in your bibliography. And I do. Then they list your top three best sellers. My top three are…
Spog Goes to School (Spog’s Children’s Book Series 5)
#1, 481,785 in Kindle books store (paid) 66,168 spots today
#1, 762,106 in Kindle books store (paid) 2,557 spots today
Haunted Manor: Voodoo Murder
#1, 882,754 in Kindle books store (paid) 2,825 spots
Retailers selling your book, need to take part in the Nielsen BookScan. Your book to belong to one of the companies from which Nielsen derives its list of reported ASINs. The ASIN is the Amazon Standard Identification Number. It’s a 10-character alphanumeric unique identifier assigned by Amazon.com. The number is used by its partners for product-identification within the Amazon.com organization.
For example. If your book is a partner with the Ingram Company, you can see the sales info. If your book is Print on Demand. Your publishing company may not report ISBNs to Ingram. Thus, you may not see any sales information. It will show up as, ‘current rank unknown.’ Most of my books show this prompt.
To see sales data for Amazon sales, you must take part in one of the direct-publishing programs. CreateSpace.com or Kindle Direct Publishing. CreateSpace is an Amazon print on demand company. For this reason, sales of your CreateSpace book on Amazon may not appear. Mine does not show because I print my books on demand. It’s costly to buy books up front and then try to peddle them.
But, CreateSpace books might be eligible for enrollment with the Ingram Book Company. And then the book report sales go to BookScan. Does this sound complicated? Yes, for me anyway, it’s a lot to digest.
All CreateSpace Author members, can see a manufacturing report. This shows the volume of their books printed to meet the demand of various sales channels.
Createsapce offers five or six free channels
Libraries – I just went to my local library yesterday to drop off some promotional literature about my print on demand books. Over half my books are already in the library. But, I reminded them that they can get my new books to put on the shelves. This is because, libraries are in the Createspace channel of distribution.
Kindle Direct Publishing (KDP). Any copyright holder can publish a Kindle book on Amazon for free. Members of the KDP program have access to reporting data. The information has a weekly update.
Amazon Bestsellers Rank History
The Amazon Bestsellers Rank History page shows the best seller rank summary of all your books. The Bestsellers Rank does not include sales from any of their International websites. And I belong to a few of these. I can get my international ranking through another source.
But, the Bestsellers Rank shows books in their (meaning Createspace) catalog. The ranking system tells the author how well their books are selling. This is relative to the sales of other books in the catalog.
Sales rank is a relative measure. Print books rate among all books in the Amazon Books store. Kindle books rate among the free or the paid books in the Kindle store. Remember, this number is a comparison of your book with all other books in the catalog For example:
Spog Goes to School (Spog’s Children’s Book Series 5)
Rates # 1, 481,785 in Kindle books store. The book was among 66,168 (paid) spots today.
Beyond the Twilight Zone
Current Sales Rank: Rates #2, 732,649 in the Kindle Store.
Beyond a Kiss: Book Five; Mia Perez series
Current Sales Rank: Rates #3, 343,493 in the Kindle Store.
You might think, gosh the book ranks in the one million, two million or three million range. Yes, that’s a lot of competition. And that’s why writers are among the group known as ‘starving artists.’
It takes a lot of practice, persistence, patience and promoting in our trade to eke out a living. It also takes discretionary cash. Books aren’t free for the writer. We pay for each book with the hope we can sell them to the general public. The most lucrative way is to hold a book signing. And this avenue takes all of the (four ‘s) and a lot of cash.
You might think a writer makes a lot of money. This is a misnomer. That is, unless you’re lucky enough to sell a lot of books. Depending on the retail sale of a book. A writer’s royalty can be a few cents to maybe three dollars and a few pennies.
I call it a hallelujah moment if a book sells. I know when this happens because it shows up in my bank statement. Someone recently bought a book online through a catalog. But that sale didn’t affect my ranking. Most likely because more books in the same category sold more than my one book. I’ve even watched my ranking drop. But, I take this lightly.
On the same note, I’ve seen my ranking improve. My best educated guess is the group of books in my same genre, is selling one copy a week. And my book’s sales rate remains the same. Perhaps, even my book sold two copies in one week. So, this is an indicator why my rank improved.
Of course, it’s a two-way street. My rank may still drop even though my book kept selling one copy a week. This is why I refrain from checking the numbers. I’m not into roller coasters and the nausea I get from the ride.
Amazon Author Rank is based on sales of all your books relative to the sales of other authors. The Amazon Author Rank shows how an author’s book sells relative to other authors. Like the Billboard charts, lower numbers are better. An author with the Amazon Author Rank of #1 will only appear as an author in the top 100.
Of course, this is a dream of mine. To be listed in the top 100. But, I’ve got a lot of work to do. Amazon looks at paid sales of all the books sold by an author on Amazon.com. This includes books in Kindle too.
My author ranking is #136, 842. I consider this pretty darn good. This means that I have 136,742 more books to sell before I rank in the top 100. It’s a doable goal.
As of a few moments ago, I had 9,222 visits to my K. Lorraine website http://klorraine.com. One of my New Year’s Resolutions was to reach 10,000 views by December 31st. I’m almost there and I have seven months left in this year. ‘Hip-hip-hurray,’ for my accomplishment.
My fan base has grown leaps and bounds. I couldn’t be more humbled or I couldn’t feel more blessed. And that’s where the (P word) patience falls into play. I’ve been writing all my life. But, I didn’t publish until 2013.
It’s taken, (P word), persistence to grow my fan base. It’s taken (P word), practice to hone my skills. It’s taken learning to market my talent. And it’s taken time to (another P word), promote my books. But it’s taken a strongfaith in God’s Will and a a lot of prayers to keep the pace steady.
Thank you for reading my blog.
Until next week.
Be sure to drop by my other blog, ‘No Shoes Required.’ www.noshoesrequiredblog.wordpress.com. You can also get there by going to http://klorraine.com and click on the ‘No Shoes,’ icon.
You never know what you’ll find there. It’s fun. It’s flirty. It’s fabulous. And it’s fashion at it’s best. You never know who might show up as a guest blogger either…
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